Behind Anger
Breaking the Chains: Understanding and Healing from Trauma Bonds
March 24, 2023
Anger is a word that mainly depicts negativity and poor behavior. However, it is an ordinary human emotion that we all experience on various occasions. Sometimes, this helpful reaction allows us to express opposition or detestation toward someone or something that may have wronged us.
In some cases, it’s more than just expected or natural anger. Some anger issues have a deeper story behind them that many people may be unaware of. Although people tend to assume the worst when faced with displays of anger, they may not be aware of what is happening or has happened behind the scenes.
Not all anger is unhealthy anger. It can be healthy or acceptable if it’s not causing harm, becoming a go-to reaction, or damaging relationships and friendships.
The Common Causes Of Anger.
Some people are triggered easily due to traumatic events from their childhood, past, or even current experiences. Others can get angry because of feeling slighted. Due to the situation and its intensity, different types of anger will surface, leaving you experiencing either minor irritation to full-blown rage.
The common causes of anger include:
- Fear or hurt
- Stressful situations
- Feeling attacked
- Mental health conditions
- Being disrespected
- Past trauma and abuse
- Neglect or abandonment, etc.
These factors and many others can cause an outburst or constant anger due to struggling to regulate emotions. So not everyone we see who displays some form of anger is just angry for no reason.
How To Deal With Anger Issues?
Recognizing The Warning Signs.
Recognizing when you’re about to feel angry, you’ll be in an excellent place to implement some of the tips listed below before you lash out or get out of control.
Some of the warning signs are:
- Pounding heart
- Gritting your teeth
- Sweating
- Tight chest
- Shaking
- Feeling anxious
- Raising your voice
- Being snappy or defensive
- Temporarily losing your sense of humor
- Pacing
- Getting a ‘flash’ of a bad mood
- Being overly critical of someone
- Feeling argumentative
Try To Figure Out Why You’re Angry.
There are various reasons why you might be angry. It’s normal and understandable in some situations, for instance, when you or someone else is unfairly or poorly treated.
Some other reasons you might be feeling angry are that you’re under a lot of pressure, experiencing bodily or hormonal changes that cause mood swings, or you’re frustrated with the present stage of your life.
Determining why you’re angry will be easier to manage and prevent you from jeopardizing relationships and the stability of your mental health and well-being.
Take Some Time Out To Relax.
Knowing what helps you relax can be very useful whenever you’re feeling the symptoms of anger. Taking time out to do something you enjoy makes a big difference in any hostile situation.
You can try activities like walking in the park, reading a book, meditating, listening to music, or relaxing apps like SoulSpace.
Talk To Someone.
Talking to someone you trust about how you feel and what you’re experiencing can take a weight off your shoulders and your mind—a trusted adult, friend, or family member. However, if your anger persists and negatively impacts your daily life and relationships, it is time to seek a professional.
Conclusion
We as individuals must be mindful and aware of what a person may be going through. For example, if we are victims of someone’s anger, we should try to understand them or their situation before concluding that they are bad and treating them likewise. Your kindness and understanding can bring them out of a negative place and bring peace and happiness.
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